Looking for a beautiful reading for the wedding ceremony, something heartfelt for a speech or wedding toast, or a poem to include in a wedding program? Here's a popular piece known throughout the world called "The Art of Marriage" by Wilferd A. Peterson:
Art Of Marriage"
Wilferd A. Peterson (longer version)
& Beth Kent,
Co-Publishers of NJWedding.com
Happiness in marriage
is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big
It is never being too
old to hold hands.
It is remembering to
say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to
It is at no time taking
the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual
sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle
of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for
each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for
perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity
to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other
an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for
the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a
relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying
the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what
marriage can be, at its best.
- by Wilferd Arlan Peterson
short, popular version - view bio of Wilferd A. Peterson
The Art of Marriage is an essay by Wilferd A. Peterson
(published in THE NEW BOOK OF THE ART OF LIVING, Simon
& Schuster, New York, copyright Wilferd Arlan Peterson, 1962,
1963; copyright Lilian Thorpe, 2004). Permission granted to NJWedding.com
by the Heacock Literary Agency, Inc.